This post is going to be a little different from what you’ve seen from me recently, but I feel like it may be one of the most important. If you don’t know me personally then you don’t know that I have struggled with depression for seven years. This means that my life is full of doubt and a constant fear that I’m not doing enough. If you feel this way too – here are some tips that I’ve picked up over the years that have helped me.
Questioning Your Negative Thoughts
One of the most effective ways for me to silence my negative thoughts is to question their validity. This is something that my therapist taught me a few years back and I still find myself needing to do it on a regular basis. For example – I’ve been feeling like I’m bad at my job. But what evidence do I have to support that? Has someone told me that? Have I been doing something wrong? The answer to these questions is more than likely no and therefore, you shouldn’t waste your energy stressing about them. So the next time you find yourself feeling down about something – ask yourself if this claim really has any merit to it. Because it probably doesn’t.
Put Things Into Perspective
This may be one that you have heard of before, but if whatever your worried about isn’t going to effect you in 5 to 10 years – you probably don’t need to spend more than 10 minutes stressed about it. And believe me, I know how hard this is. I spend entirely too much time worrying about things that I probably don’t have any control over. But putting your life into perspective and focusing on what you can do right now; rather than concerning yourself with the what if’s is a lot more productive.
Check In With Yourself
At my job, I have been helping out in the production line from 3:30 to 5:30 every day for the past 4 weeks. On the line, you have to perform a sort of food safety check every 15 minutes. Call me philosophical if you will, but I thought this was such a good practice in life. Check in with yourself! Every 15 minutes might be a little extreme, but how many times a day do you find yourself going through the motions? If you’re anything like me, it’s pretty often. But do yourself a favor and take a look at these instances in your day and you’ll learn a lot about what makes you happy and what doesn’t.
Social Media Constructs
Social media, for me, is one of the greatest sources of self doubt in my life for a number of reasons; primarily by way of comparison. Scrolling through Instagram I constantly find myself feeling inferior to the influencers I see on the platform. Something I have found that works for me in this case is reminding myself that these influencers are only showing me a snapshot of their daily life. And more than likely it’s the most picture perfect way they can do it – which isn’t real life. As someone that spends a ton of time on social media, I know how hard it is to not compare your life to others’. But I promise you, it really takes a weight off of your shoulders when you do.
Self doubt and insecurity is something that I feel isn’t discussed enough. If you don’t go through the day and question yourself then that’s amazing, but it’s not the case for everyone. So I hope this gave you some tips for silencing the doubt in your life and let me tell you – it will improve your self confidence immensely. -Shelby xoxo